For many women, the moment a man bends the knee and opens a little black box is one of the happiest moments in their lives.
The moment seemed to fall flat when one bride-to-be looked inside the box and saw something smaller than she expected.
She was upset, but didn’t want to say anything to her betrothed. Instead she reached out through social media for help.
Here’s what she posted to Mumsnet,
DP proposed and presented me with the ring he’d chosen – a diamond solitaire in white gold. I was so happy and excited to accept but was disappointed when I first saw the ring. The first word that entered my head was ‘small’. There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se, as a diamond solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing – the colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.
His salary is nearing a 6 figure sum and he’s usually very generous. Having seen the receipt I know he paid £1,300 for it – which is a lot less than I would have imagined he would have spent on such a significant piece of jewellery.
He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits and there’s nothing actually wrong with it rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it. Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you’.
Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked. As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewellery I wanted to really love it and I just don’t.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
The internet was quick to respond with a whirlwind of emotion. The vast majority of readers were quick to criticize and attack her.
“Talk about being ungrateful,” commented one reader.
Another reader said they were disappointed in the woman’s complaint. “I mean someone wants to commit the rest of your lives together and you want to make a fuss over a ring?”
One commenter attempted to find some common ground with the upset bride-to-be. “I would prepare to be flamed and called grabby,” they wrote. “But if this is the man you intend to spend the rest of your life with you should be able to have a conversation about this. If it can be returned and you can pick something you like better, together, then do that, but I would probably try and stick to his budget or put the extra to it yourself if you choose something more expensive.”
There were a few other women who agreed that the bride should have some say in a piece of jewelry she’ll be wearing for the rest of her life. “There’s no way on Earth I’d allow someone else [to] choose a piece of jewellery for me that I’d potentially be wearing for decades. I wouldn’t even let my partner choose this year’s winter coat.”
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